So… Gay Marriage is a thing now.
Some of you love this, some of you hate this. Each side has it’s arguments all laid out and ready to deploy at a moments notice. Instead of commenting on random Facebook posts all day, let me give you my thoughts here…
Here’s the thing. I used to be a little hesitant about accepting “gays”. It wasn’t a religious thing, though I am a believer. I just didn’t understand it because my brain doesn’t work that way. Don’t get me wrong, I was never anti-anything, just wary and kinda weirded out (If you can’t be honest on the internet, where can you, right?).
Then a funny thing happened. I made friends with some really awesome people who just happened to be gay. I was able to witness moments of attraction, affection, joy, fury, and tenderness between two people of the same sex. I realized that there is absolutely nothing weird about it. It is exactly like straight relationships, except for one thing. When a straight couple finds each other, after years of searching for the right fit, they fall in love and decide to make a life together. Some live together, some get married and start families, but they do so with the blessings of society. No one thinks twice about this natural progression.
There are lots of reasons to support marriage in general. You get to cherish the security in having a best friend, a help meet, someone who always has your back. You can share financial burdens and housework duties. You never have to sleep alone.
You say, “Gay people can live together and have those things too without getting married.”
Yes they can, but what else does a married couple have? Monetary benefits of a civil union, Health insurance discounts, car insurance discounts, community property, tax reductions, the list goes on and on.
Why would you willfully deny a couple who has committed to each other for life the benefits afforded to straight couples?
Because God says it’s a sin.
Sure, let’s explore that then, shall we?
First, a civil union, which is all this is, doesn’t affect your beliefs or your church. No church is required to preform ceremonies for gay couples.
Second, are you divorced? Have you ever lied? Disobeyed your father? Coveted something? Did you look at your neighbors new car and think, “man I want one of those!”? The Bible say not to do all of those things or you risk damnation. It also contradicts itself regularly.
The Bible is a book, directed by God, but written by man. Man is fallible, man injects is own beliefs into things. The Bible itself isn’t even the Bible as it was originally written. Over the centuries it has been tweaked and changed by the church to reflect whatever agenda they were promoting at the time. It even incorporates some elements of Paganism to attract the early Celtic crowd.
What God says, over and over is to love one another. Do not be a judge of man, do not hate or create violence, do unto others as you would have done unto you. Where does it say to discriminate against someone based on their personal choices? Do you honestly think that keeping a loving couple from filing legal paperwork will somehow save their soul? Or yours? Or that it somehow endangers your soul?
They are going to be gay, no matter what you do or don’t approve of. The choices people make are accountable only to God, not man. Every man will face judgement in their own time. Your opinions will have no effect on the way that goes down for me, or anyone else, only for you. So maybe tolerance and kindness would even benefit you in the end?
Love one another, as I have loved you.
In other words, you don’t have to like everything in this world. However, if it does no harm, you can learn to tolerate it or turn your head away. Because honestly, I don’t like guys wearing skinny jeans, and I think people who eat no gluten without being celiac are silly. But, you know what? IT’S NONE OF MY DAMN BUSINESS. I will cook a meal with no gluten for my friend because she says it makes her feel better to not eat it and I can keep my mouth shut when a guy walks by in skinny jeans because he likes them.
If I can keep my comments to myself when someone else’s kid comes over and chews with their mouth open, you can let people of the same gender marry before the courts.
The willpower it takes might be intense, but you can do it.