Your crazy is showing, you might want to tuck that back in…

I saw this today:

secrets

and I thought…. woah, are there any?

It would be a cute 1 page book.

It made me realize that there are some things we probably should keep far more private than we do.

Everyday we post random info about our families and lives to Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Tumblr, WordPress, etc. Is there any one of us that can say they don’t regret a post here or there? That they maybe should have waited to post vacation photos until they got home from vacation so the creeps out there wouldn’t know the house was empty? How about that drunken Tweet to the ex, or the questionable pic on facebook?

For example, I posted a picture of my kids from Instagram today and some random strange man “liked” my picture…

**Dude, that’s creepy.**

Time to change the privacy settings, ASAP.

Then what about the things that you just don’t fully think out before you post them online, for everyone to see. The things that you leave out there, publicly, that are never going to go away….

There was this incidence of cyber-stalking I witnessed via Twitter/Facebook Fan page last night. There’s an actor named Sam Heughan that I recently blogged about (here). He’s a nice guy, plays to the twitter fans, responds to comments, posts teases about his upcoming role in the Outlander series coming to Starz in 2014. Then he goes and posts this picture:

sh 2013

…and the fans went <WILD>

But one girl took it too far…. Apparently she lives near the area in which this picture was taken. So she tweeted inappropriate comments to him, she BEGGED to have him meet her nearby. Flooding twitter feeds and Facebook posts with a frankly creepy stream of consciousness on how she was going to Find Him and Meet him and get him to Sign Her Poem, etc.

I don’t want to rag on the girl too hard, I think it was mostly meant as a joke, all in good fun, but I don’t think she considered the perspective of the strangers who were seeing her (apparent) mental breakdown at the prospect of being Near this guy. (which subsequently got her banned from the fan page)

We all just sort of *cringed*

can you imagine the way that would play out?

Girl: HI! I Found you! See I did! AND I wrote you a POEM!!

He: Umm…. Gee, thanks??

Regardless of how eloquent and beautiful (and not creepy) that poem may have been, it just SOUNDS creepy! Doesn’t it?? It just makes you want to tap her on the shoulder and say “Excuse me, I think your crazy is showing, you might want to tuck that back in…”

We need to Really reflect on what we put out there. What secrets should we keep from the internet? Who is watching what we do, how do they perceive that info and what do they do with it?

With that in mind, I post this on my blog for the world to see… let me know if I need to tuck anything back in.

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5 thoughts on “Your crazy is showing, you might want to tuck that back in…

  1. Social media is fantastic, but you have to be so careful. People can’t tell the tone of your voice when you type, and it’s easy for something you write as humour to be taken the wrong way. Having said that, as his fame increases. This kind of ‘stalking’ could well get worse. Let’s hope Mr H can handle it 😉

  2. Context counts. That is about all I can say. I believe it was in good fun, I believe it got carried away on both ends. But, yeah, it’s OUT there. And everyone sees ONLY this bit of you. And we judge, of course we do, based on the facts in front of us. And what was provided wasn’t necessarily the best side. The most grownup side.

    • I’m sure the girl is not a fanatical lunatic out to clip his hair for her memory book, she was just having a little fun online. Perception is everything though, we all have to be careful of what we put out there.

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